NLP Congruence ?
The greatest speech ever made. Charlie Chaplin plays the great dictator and in the current state of our world I would urge you to watch and listen to what is actually a truly inspirational piece of oratory.
During the era of McCarthyism, Chaplin was accused of "un-American activities" as a suspected communist by J. Edgar Hoover. When Hoover learned of Chaplin's trip to England in 1952, he negotiated with the Immigration and Naturalization Service to revoke Chaplin's re-entry permit, exiling Chaplin so he could not return to the US for his alleged political leanings. In 1972, Chaplin was given special permission to come out of exile to accept the Honorary Academy Award for "the incalculable effect he has had in making motion pictures the art form of this century". Stepping onto the stage of the Dorothy Chandler Pavilion, Chaplin received the longest standing ovation in Academy Award history, lasting a full twelve minutes.
Chaplin talks of those who preach freedom and practice oppression. Of the soldiers who fight for freedom for those who would enslave the hearts minds and bodies of humanity.
He makes the spirit soar in this which in my humble opinion is Chaplins best ever performance. And that is because Charlie is speaking from his heart. He chose exile in Switzerland away from the bright lights because his political views did not match those of the establishment.
It is this that makes Charlie Chaplin so inspiring.
In NLP terms he is totally congruent. The conversations and beliefs he has are totally aligned with the words that he speaks.
Enjoy the inspiration from someone who was known as the funniest man on earth.
Sunday, October 30, 2011
Charlie Chaplin Demonstrates NLP Congruence
Tuesday, October 25, 2011
Charlie Chaplin Demonstrates NLP Congruence
NLP Congruence ?
The greatest speech ever made. Charlie Chaplin plays the great dictator and in the current state of our world I would urge you to watch and listen to what is actually a truly inspirational piece of oratory.
Chaplin talks of those who preach freedom and practice oppression. Of the soldiers who fight for freedom for those who would enslave the hearts minds and bodies of humanity.
He makes the spirit soar in this which in my humble opinion is Chaplins best ever performance. And that is because Charlie is speaking from his heart. He chose exile in Switzerland away from the bright lights because his political views did not match those of the establishment.
It is this that makes Charlie Chaplin so inspiring.
In NLP terms he is totally congruent. The conversations and beliefs he has are totally aligned with the words that he speaks.
Enjoy the inspiration from someone who was known as the funniest man on earth.
Monday, October 24, 2011
Charlie Chaplin Demonstrates NLP Congruence
NLP Congruence ?
The greatest speech ever made. Charlie Chaplin plays the great dictator and in the current state of our world I would urge you to watch and listen to what is actually a truly inspirational piece of oratory.
Chaplin talks of those who preach freedom and practice oppression. Of the soldiers who fight for freedom for those who would enslave the hearts minds and bodies of humanity.
He makes the spirit soar in this which in my humble opinion is Chaplins best ever performance. And that is because Charlie is speaking from his heart. He chose exile in Switzerland away from the bright lights because his political views did not match those of the establishment.
It is this that makes Charlie Chaplin so inspiring.
In NLP terms he is totally congruent. The conversations and beliefs he has are totally aligned with the words that he speaks.
Enjoy the inspiration from someone who was known as the funniest man on earth.
Charlie Chaplin Demonstrates NLP Congruence
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pK2WJd5bXFg
NLP Congruence ?
The greatest speech ever made. Charlie Chaplin plays the great dictator and in the current state of our world I would urge you to watch and listen to what is actually a truly inspirational piece of oratory.
Chaplin talks of those who preach freedom and practice oppression. Of the soldiers who fight for freedom for those who would enslave the hearts minds and bodies of humanity.
He makes the spirit soar in this which in my humble opinion is Chaplins best ever performance. And that is because Charlie is speaking from his heart. He chose exile in Switzerland away from the bright lights because his political views did not match those of the establishment.
It is this that makes Charlie Chaplin so inspiring.
In NLP terms he is totally congruent. The conversations and beliefs he has are totally aligned with the words that he speaks.
Enjoy the inspiration from someone who was known as the funniest man on earth.
Sunday, October 23, 2011
Behavioural Flexibility and NLP
NLP Courses Wellington
Posted on October 24, 2011 by Mike Noone
“Notice that the stiffest tree is most easily cracked, while the bamboo or willow survives by bending with the wind.”
Bruce Lee
Martial Artist and Actor
Think about this and notice areas in your life where you could be more flexible. Then notice the difference in the results that you can get when you are more flexible in your attitude and your actions.
One of the presuppositions of NLP is that the system ( or person) with the most flexibility controls the system.
Now think about that !
Saturday, October 22, 2011
NLP Persuasion
NLP Persuasion
Persuasion appears simple. And it is when you know how.
NLP persuasion is more than just words and smiles though both of those things do help.
But there is more. ! You see when you are congruent with not just yourself but also completely aligned with your market or audience things get so much easier.
To have those conversations with who and what they really want because you know who and what they really are can be challenging. That's why I spent years learning NLP persuasion.
You don't have to be curious about what else you can learn here. You are in charge of all your results after all. And it's not necessary to experience that you are right about that. If you want different results then come back here for more .
Tuesday, October 18, 2011
This is a test to see if we have to sink the boat
There is an expression in NLP called "sinking the boat".. We teach this in our NLP courses.
It refers to one of the NLP pre-suppositions that there is no such thing as failure, only feed back.
The story is that you are sailing your little yacht from say Auckland in New Zealand to Brisbane in Australia. After a few days you check your instruments and discover that you are actually on course for Sydney Australia. Not the destination you're aiming for. The question is
Do you sink the boat?
The obvious thing to do is to adjust your course until you are on the right heading for Brisbane again. And that's what you do.
Next morning you check your instruments again and discover your on perfect course for Cairns which as you probably know is well North of Brisbane. Once again the question is. Do you sink the boat ?
Of course not. You adjust your course so that you are aiming slightly further South and carry on sailing.
Next morning you awaken to find you are right outside Brisbane harbour but you are pointing at the wrong side of it. You are headed for the South side of the harbour and your Berth is on the North side.
Would you sink the boat?
Of course not. Once again you're going to slightly alter your course so that you are aiming for your destination.
The other part of this that many NLP trainers omit to tell you is that you need to know what your destination is before you start and you also need milestones or some way of knowing where you are in relation to that destination.
In my next post I'm going to talk about how you can define where you want to go in what we refer to as sensory specific terms.
You don't need to know what I mean by sensory specific for now as it will all be explained later...
Sunday, October 16, 2011
Why NLP Courses Teach You About Congruence
Congruence is one of those non-obvious aspects of NLP courses that some folks manage to miss.
Have you ever experienced being in a state of flow where everything just fell into place? And the right place, at that.
A state in which every word you said had the precise effect you hoped it would and where people understood you totally. The state where you felt confident and comfortable and relaxed and everything just felt so easy. And in that state you were probably saying things to your self that were supportive and nurturing and loving, while other people around you were experiencing you as charismatic and trusted.
Most people have had that at one point in their life. Where it all just lines up, perfectly.
And have you ever watched somebody else ? Maybe it was a teacher or somebody doing a sales presentation or a parent with a child and they seemed to be doing all the right stuff. They were appeared to be saying the correct things and using all the correct postures. And despite doing all those correct things it wasn't effective because they weren't getting that result they seemed to want. And the less they got the result they wanted, the worse their performance became.
Have you ever seen that ?
Here's what is important about the two states I just described...
The first one is about internal experiences and I got you to think about the experience. I described how it felt from the perspective of your own experience of being in that state. How your body would feel and what you would say. The effect you are having on other people around you and you went inside your own mind and imagined that.
Because of the way that your brain is wired when I say to you "Can you remember a time when" ?, your mind automatically goes to a time such as the one i'm describing. If it can't find that experience in your memory then it goes right ahead and makes one up.
This is why the most effective marketing, political campaigns, teachings and movements, all get you to imagine what it will be like when you get (x). Imagination is a very powerful part of how humans operate. It's why we tell stories. Stories allow us to imagine.
From imagination we create reality...
Reality is based on your beliefs which comes from your perceived reality.
So what has this got to do with NLP and congruence.
Well, congruence is what makes the difference between the two results I described.
On an NLP course the trainer will be in a totally congruent and effective state. What this means is that their mind, body and emotions are all in the best state to deliver your training to you. This is done by using a proven methodology for teaching based on years of research, refinement and practice.
OK Mike but I'm not an NLP trainer ...
And that doesn't mean you can't apply these same NLP techniques to other areas in your life. If you're like most folks then you enjoy being in that flow state and flow is a pretty darn good description for congruence. If you enjoy being happy then think back to the last time you felt like that. You can probably also realise that you were in a state of flow.
Anyway please...!
I don't want you to imagine about what it's like to be in that flow state because you are already thinking it anyway.
Enjoy
Better Communication Skills? or A Necessary Paradigm Shift
I came across a video on YouTube today.
Sounds ordinary enough...?
Or is there more to this email ?
What's the...underlying reason that caused me to sit down and write to you today...
Well, it's like this...
For a long time I have avoided being political. ( mainly as a result of being well and truly stomped on by the system in the past whenever I was saying stuff they didn't like.)
More details later.
( maybe...!)
Just so you know, one of my deepest beliefs and values is that we MUST learn to cooperate betterif we are to survive as a species.
Please note the use of the word survivehere. And NO this is not just some impassioned plea to save the whales or any other single species.
This goes much deeper.
It's all about the deep psychological shifts that humankind needs to make to get to the next level.
We have a behaviour problem here on planet Earth.
And I hate to be the one to tell you but it's also a choice problem.
As a species and as individuals, both you and me chose a behaviour that was damaging to our home. Our planet.
And for a while we chose to ignore that because we were told that government and the financial system has the answers.
And we believed them.
BUT the truth is...
Our current behaviour is not useful for the long term sustainability of life.
Human life on planet earth is an option.
That's all it is. An option.
You are an evolutionary choice...
That's tough to consider but I believe it's true nonetheless.
You are at a decision point in your life.
We all are.
Nature doesn't care for your future here any more than it cared for the future of T Rex.
The difference between you and T Rex
is that you have a brain that's capable of creating choice AND you are still here.
NOW ...
at the moment we have systems in place that we use to run or manage our environment.
These systems are set up on the basis of competition, in just such a way, that there is inequality.
That inequality results in over 1 billion people living in poverty and starvation.
BUT the problem isn't a lack of food to feed them with...
It goes deeper...
It's all about beliefs and your psychology. The shift from a competition to a cooperation mindset.
And cooperation goes beyond mere sharing and management of resources.
Cooperation is and must become humanity's belief system. A value system.
A way of being for all of humanity, regardless of race, creed, financial status or any other BS idea you got taught about why other people are different to you.
Cooperation needs to be part of our conscious psychology as a species.
Think about the times when you are not happy...
Aren't they almost always times when there is a conflict going on.
It is your responsibility to take control of your environment which starts with your internal environment.
Your beliefs about what is possible.
Control of your environment includes controlling what you think, feel and do.
Despite what you may have been told... you... are the only person who has control over your beliefs and thoughts.
Those who tell you that you have no choice... USUALLY HAVE A VESTED INTERESTin keeping you right where you are !.
("That's your place.You better get used to it". "Hey we were always poor, dumb, downtrodden". "Your side of the family was/ is radee radee radee",)
All of the above are just BELIEFS.
Other peoples beliefs... about what is right for you. And you do not have to accept their beliefs.
I mean it positively flies in the face of what's written in the Constitution.
You have choice about what you will believe. What you can believe.
Yeah, I know it may sound difficult . But that's just another belief.
Another idea that YOU have about...
taking control of your own thoughts. Taking control of your life and destiny.
Taking control of your environment
But if Tony Robbins can do it then so can you!
If I can do it, so can you !
Doesn't mean you have to be a total master at it straight away.
It just means that you're willing to believe it's posssible to change what you believe.
If you are one of the few who don't think it's possible to change what you believe, from whatever you currently hold in your mind to something else, please do not read any further.
Instead consider...
what causes you to have such a limiting view.
Who or what told you to believe that you are powerless over your own mind and where THAT belief came from for them.
You can always hit the back button / unsubscribe.
I will be upset, knowing that yet another human being just gave up on possibility, themself and the whole future of the planet.
The rest of us will ask ourselves the question "Is there something more we can do to assist ?"
If you truly believe you are incapable of changing that one tiny belief don't even bother to get out of bed tomorrow.
Why waste energy ?
Speaking of which, for those of you who are still here with me. ..What does get you out of bed ?
What is the motivator for you that shifts you from that warmth and comfort to whatever you do when you get up.?
Once you are aware of that then you have tapped into the most powerful motivation on the planet.
So, spend some time really getting in touch with WHY you do what you do.
I have considered for some time how do we transition from where we are now to where we need to be as a species.
As part of our ecosystem.
We are after all, at a very basic level, just another item in the intricate biological soup that makes up life on this planet.
You of course are also infinite possibility in evolutionary motion.
You may be curious about what this all has to do with communication.
You can also be curious about How you can create the levels of cooperation needed to achieve survival.
Why did I just mentioned survival again?
Did you ever consider that perhaps, getting cooperation is the whole reason that you communicate in the first place ?
I mean why else did we go to all that troube of creating and refining language if not to get better cooperation with others ?
We are a social species and social implies cooperation and to do that we have to communicate clearly.
Think about it ! If you don't want or need something you don't speak or wave or do anything else to communicate with others.
Even a smile can fulfill the need to comfort or reassure another person (or yourself.)
So while you're thinking about what moves you from your bed every day I'd also invite you to really consider what results you want to get from communicating.
Consider also if your communication is getting you the results that you really really want. The environment you want. Internally and externally.
And if the answer is YES then
Watch...
If on the other hand the answer is NO then
Watch...
And by the time you have completed watching this you will know why I want you to be motivated. Why you need to be motivated. And most important of all. Why you need to believe that change is possible....
The tools for creating the necessary upgrades in awareness are about to come out of the lab here...
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NLP Training for you to use now, part 2
NLP Training for you to use right now
Posted in nlp courses, NLP Courses Online by admin on 12th Oct
Here’s a short video I just uploaded to my YouTube Channel etrainingsystems YouTube
I talk about the six languages that your brain understands. No I don’t mean English or Hindi or Armenian.
I’m talking about visual, auditory, Kinaesthetic, olfactory, gustatory and auditory digital. These may not seem all that important to you at first glance.
As we go on together I intend to demonstrate that understanding how your “six senses” work are critical for being truly successful in every area of your life.
This is a brief intro to what I teach on my nlp courses and trainings but you can relax because there is nothing for sale here. Just lots more useful stuff that you can easily learn to begin getting what you want for your life.
PS: Please Remember to like this video. Thanks
Mike
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Welcome back to video 2 in this series on how to use your brain effectively.
In this video I talk about how your brain distorts, deletes and generalises information it receives from your environment and how that information is not always correct.
Your brain creates your experiences of events based on what it has experienced and believes to be true from your past.
Seeing is not believing…!!
I’ll be loading up more information on this to http://nlp-courses.org over the next couple of weeks and how you can use what you will learn to your advantage.
http://nlp-courses.org/nlp-training-for-you-to-use-right-now
NLP Training for you to use right now
Here's a short video I just uploaded to my YouTube Channel etrainingsystems YouTube
I talk about the six languages that your brain understands. No I don't mean English or Hindi or Armenian.
I'm talking about visual, auditory, Kinaesthetic, olfactory, gustatory and auditory digital. These may not seem all that important to you at first glance.
As we go on together I intend to demonstrate that understanding how your "six senses" work are critical for being truly successful in every area of your life.
This is a brief intro to what I teach on my nlp courses and trainings but you can relax because there is nothing for sale here. Just lots more useful stuff that you can easily learn to begin getting what you want for your life.
PS: Please Remember to like this video. Thanks
Mike
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Welcome back to video 2 in this series on how to use your brain effectively.
In this video I talk about how your brain distorts, deletes and generalises information it receives from your environment and how that information is not always correct.
Your brain creates your experiences of events based on what it has experienced and believes to be true from your past.
Seeing is not believing...!!
I'll be loading up more information on this to http://nlp-courses.org over the next couple of weeks and how you can use what you will learn to your advantage.
NLP Courses Wellington
NLP courses Wellington Proudly presents an End to Manipulation...
Manipulation by whom specifically I hear you ask
They don't want you to be different. They want to keep you where you are now. Right beside them so they won't feel small and insignificant. So their egos will remain intact and they won't shed a tear for your wasted potential because they are SAFE.
Are you prepared to sacrifice everything that you could be and you would be for the sake of keeping somebody else feeling OK. ( and yet all the while knowing that they could do better but "HEY it's so much hassle" )
It's time to start considering your future and if you want to settle for mundane, ordinary and "so so"
So all I'll say is, "What's it like to know that you don't have to accept other people's plans for you and that you can think and decide what you want"?
Mike
PS The biggest barrier you have to getting what you want is what you've been listening to about yourself so far.
NLP courses Wellington for freedom from manipulation
NLP Courses Wellington
And we interupt this state to bring you a brief message from NLP courses wellington about a possible future you can choose..
NLP is about having the knowledge, tools and resources to achieve your goals in the quickest and easiest way possible.
How does it feel when you remember a time when you changed easily ?
It's not necessary to experience seeing things my way because you are in charge.
That's one of the mistruths that is put around about NLP. People who don't know about it always put it down. They claim that it's manipulative.
Maybe they're afraid of success or are just "content" and "They know their place in the scheme of things."
They probably have also decided your place in the scheme of things too...
It is said that behind every successful person there is a long line of people criticising them
And,
How surprised would you be when you discover you can change easily and feel incredibly in control ?
How To Have More Control Over The Decisions You Make – From The Inside Out with NLP
How To Have More Control Over The Decisions You Make –
From The Inside Out with NLP
Do you know the possible consequences your decisions are having in your business and in your life?
What if you could create new decisions that will give you a new direction in your business?If you think about decision making in context of your business, what is it that got you where you are today? If I may I would like to suggest that it’s the consistent decisions you made in the past have got you where you are today. And the consistent decisions you make today are going to determine where you end up tomorrow.
Would it be useful if you could make decisions that are more sound and more conscious? Decisions that are more precisely aimed at your vision, goals and dreams of your business?
Here’s the interesting thing: our decisions are driven by something deeper than our conscious thoughts. In fact, I would go so far and say that it’s our values and beliefs that determine our decisions.
Let’s have a look at values. The values we have are the things that are important to us. Take for example a person who values adventure and excitement, and another person who values security and comfort. You’ve got a great bungee jumping programme and invite both people along. What decision do you thing these two people are going to make?
I would suggest that that the person who values comfort and security would probably say no to your programme, while the person who values excitement and adventure will take you up on your invite with enthusiasm.
So, in your business, it’s the decisions you’re making that will be sending you and your business in a particular direction. The question is, in which direction are they sending you?
The Importance of Having a Vision
Something that I realised early on is that if you don’t have a vision for you business, your decisions are kind of hit and miss, and your direction for your business is hit and miss. You need to set up a target, a vision, for your direction, because then you can compare and contrast your decisions with that target, your vision. This in turn will allow you to make more precise decisions. And this means that it will allow you to determine whether your decisions take you closer or further away from where you want to go.
The Importance of Knowing Your Values
And this is where our values come in. As we’ve seen, our decisions are influenced by the values we hold. The trick is, how do we uncover values? Your values are so deeply embedded inside you, they were formed when you grew up, and most of us still operated from these values. This is because we haven’t upgraded our values, we haven’t taken a deeper look at what values are stopping us and which ones are empowering us or propelling us forwards.
Do you know your values? What if you knew the deeper structure of what’s creating your decisions? Your values become a precision compass that directs your decisions towards your vision and goals of your business and towards business success.
From the inside out
Here’s an exercise you can do to find out your values. You can take any area of your life, such as your family, your relationship, your health, your career or business, you name it. For now, let’s keep it in context and take your business.
1. What’s important to you about your business? Write down everything that is important to you about your business. It could be anything, don’t censor anything and just let your imagination take over. When you can’t think of anything anymore, ask the question again: What’s important to me about my business? Write down some more as it comes to mind, and ask the question again.
2. Now, go through your list of values and select the top 20. Of these top 20, select the top 10 things that are most important to you, the ones you just can’t go without. Remember, it’s not finding what you value. It’s about finding what you value most.
3. For this next step, it is easiest if you write your top 10 values on post-it notes, one value on each note. This will make it easier to sort them in order of importance. Order your values with the most important value on the top, the least important at the bottom. Then, take the first value and ask yourself, is the first value more important then the second value or is the second value more important than the first value. Do this for each of the 10 values, re-ordering if necessary.
Be willing to be surprised.
It may be that you had never realised how important something was until this exercise.
When you now look at what you value most about your business, your top 10 values for your business, are the decisions you make each day aligned with your values? Or do you need to make some adjustments to your decisions so that they fulfil your values? Once your business decisions are aligned with your values, your business will make an amazing leap to success .
To your success from the inside out
Evelyne
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Evelyne Draper is an NLP Master Practitioner and NLP Coach, licensed by the International Association of Neuro-linguistic Programming and the International Coaching Institutes.
She offers NLP coaching for business people and people who want to improve the quality of their lives.
Very often people are not aware of how much their attitudes and beliefs influence how successful they are in business and in life. She is passionate about helping people achieve the results they want.
For more information, go to nlpskills.org/why-nlp-coaching.
Evelyne lives in Wellington, New Zealand, with her partner Michael, and when she’s not helping other people get what they want, she likes to go on long walks in and around Wellington, along the beaches and exploring nature.
Creating Better Business with NLP
How To Have More Control Over The Decisions You Make –
From The Inside Out with NLP
Do you know the possible consequences your decisions are having in your business and in your life?
What if you could create new decisions that will give you a new direction in your business?If you think about decision making in context of your business, what is it that got you where you are today? If I may I would like to suggest that it’s the consistent decisions you made in the past have got you where you are today. And the consistent decisions you make today are going to determine where you end up tomorrow.
Would it be useful if you could make decisions that are more sound and more conscious? Decisions that are more precisely aimed at your vision, goals and dreams of your business?
Here’s the interesting thing: our decisions are driven by something deeper than our conscious thoughts. In fact, I would go so far and say that it’s our values and beliefs that determine our decisions.
Let’s have a look at values. The values we have are the things that are important to us. Take for example a person who values adventure and excitement, and another person who values security and comfort. You’ve got a great bungee jumping programme and invite both people along. What decision do you thing these two people are going to make?
I would suggest that that the person who values comfort and security would probably say no to your programme, while the person who values excitement and adventure will take you up on your invite with enthusiasm.
So, in your business, it’s the decisions you’re making that will be sending you and your business in a particular direction. The question is, in which direction are they sending you?
The Importance of Having a Vision
Something that I realised early on is that if you don’t have a vision for you business, your decisions are kind of hit and miss, and your direction for your business is hit and miss. You need to set up a target, a vision, for your direction, because then you can compare and contrast your decisions with that target, your vision. This in turn will allow you to make more precise decisions. And this means that it will allow you to determine whether your decisions take you closer or further away from where you want to go.
The Importance of Knowing Your Values
And this is where our values come in. As we’ve seen, our decisions are influenced by the values we hold. The trick is, how do we uncover values? Your values are so deeply embedded inside you, they were formed when you grew up, and most of us still operated from these values. This is because we haven’t upgraded our values, we haven’t taken a deeper look at what values are stopping us and which ones are empowering us or propelling us forwards.
Do you know your values? What if you knew the deeper structure of what’s creating your decisions? Your values become a precision compass that directs your decisions towards your vision and goals of your business and towards business success.
From the inside out
Here’s an exercise you can do to find out your values. You can take any area of your life, such as your family, your relationship, your health, your career or business, you name it. For now, let’s keep it in context and take your business.
1. What’s important to you about your business? Write down everything that is important to you about your business. It could be anything, don’t censor anything and just let your imagination take over. When you can’t think of anything anymore, ask the question again: What’s important to me about my business? Write down some more as it comes to mind, and ask the question again.
2. Now, go through your list of values and select the top 20. Of these top 20, select the top 10 things that are most important to you, the ones you just can’t go without. Remember, it’s not finding what you value. It’s about finding what you value most.
3. For this next step, it is easiest if you write your top 10 values on post-it notes, one value on each note. This will make it easier to sort them in order of importance. Order your values with the most important value on the top, the least important at the bottom. Then, take the first value and ask yourself, is the first value more important then the second value or is the second value more important than the first value. Do this for each of the 10 values, re-ordering if necessary.
Be willing to be surprised.
It may be that you had never realised how important something was until this exercise.
When you now look at what you value most about your business, your top 10 values for your business, are the decisions you make each day aligned with your values? Or do you need to make some adjustments to your decisions so that they fulfil your values? Once your business decisions are aligned with your values, your business will make an amazing leap to success .
To your success from the inside out
Evelyne
*************************************************************************************
Evelyne Draper is an NLP Master Practitioner and NLP Coach, licensed by the International Association of Neuro-linguistic Programming and the International Coaching Institutes.
She offers NLP coaching for business people and people who want to improve the quality of their lives.
Very often people are not aware of how much their attitudes and beliefs influence how successful they are in business and in life. She is passionate about helping people achieve the results they want.
For more information, go to nlpskills.org/why-nlp-coaching.
Evelyne lives in Wellington, New Zealand, with her partner Michael, and when she’s not helping other people get what they want, she likes to go on long walks in and around Wellington, along the beaches and exploring nature.
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NLP Training in Wellington New Zealand
Wellington New zealand is a great city to learn NLP. Besides being stunningly beautiful and the best city in the world ( on a good day ) it is also extremely well served with eateries restauarnts, cafes and places to just sit in the sun and watch life go by.
I've made a quick video to give you a taster of what to expect when you do NLP training in Wellington with us. Don't be alarmed by the steep hills with houses hanging onto their side for dear life. The views from the top wil take your breathe away.
Don't mind the wind. ( You'll miss it when you leave ).Just relax knowing that you are in one of the friendliest and nicest cities in the world. You can walk from one end to the other in no time flat...
I love Animoto almost as much as NLP
I just made another Animoto video which is a shameless plug for our upcoming NLP training weekend which we will be running in Wellington New Zealand sometime soon. You may notice the exotic scenery. Oriental bay is difficult to beat on a good day.
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More NLP Courses
There are so many types of NLP courses.
Some deal with communication skills and others deal with management and team building. Yet other look at and teach better ways to impart knowledge. that is to say, how to teach better and faster. Accelerated learning techniques were developed from NLP including things like the memory strategies which allow you to remember up to 61% more.
There are some amazing things such as Photoreading which was developed by Dr. Paul Schele. At th eend of a three day training you have the ability to read at up to 26,000 words per minute.
( disclaimer: these results are not typical and will vary from individual to individual... )
NLP courses are also used in he field of sports and fitness and has led to some amazing breakthroughs in performance.
NLP ( neuro-linguistic programming ) is th estudy of excellence in every field and has so many appplications that I'd be surprised if you weren't already using some of the nlp techniques.
To discover more and to get our complimentary NLP training online just go to NLP courses.org
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Wanton Experimentation with Jezebel in the back of...
From: Michael Noone <michael.michaelnoone@gmail.com>
Date: Sun, Sep 18, 2011 at 12:06 PM
Subject: Wanton Experimentation with Jezebel in the back of...
To: communicationskillstraining@posterous.comIt makes you think doesn't it. WANTON !
What a powerful and evocative word. Images of wickedness and unbridled lust. Fornication, even.
Jezebel you have got So much to answer for.
you gotta love it. You really do...
The way that your mind can conjure up all those states, emotions and reactions to mere groups of symbols and spaces.
So what else could YOU do with that sort of ability.
Imagine how useful this ability is for you to do useful things with your mind.
There is so much more to life than mere reaction...(Despite what governments say...)
What would you rather be doing with YOUR brain?
Legislation that affects how UK practitioners advertise....
Here is a link about advertising legislation that will cover NLP in the UK very shortly. Please be aware that the web is becoming more and more regulated and this is a follow on action from what happened in the USA with the increased powers of the FTC. ( federal Trade Commision ) which put some quite draconian restrictions on advertising online.
It's only a matter of time before it happens here. The medical establishment has invested big bucks and isn't about to surrender any part of that investment to folks who actually understand how the brain works.
I would draw your attention to the bottom of Nick's post where he states that you must have certain pages on your website.
ie: A privacy policy, terms of use, about us and contact us. The last one isn't compulsory in the eyes of Google. It's just common sense.
If you require a copy of these pages feel free to contact me.
Here's the article from Nick Kemp
www.nickkemp.com
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Relationship communication from a weird perspective ?
Relationship communication can be tricky. It is a curious way to start an article but consider this. Relationships involve people. That's a statement of the obvious I know and sometimes things that are obvious are completely missed.
You are a unique human being. The people that you are in relationships with are also human beings and also unique. Every one of you has been brought up in a unique environment known as a family that is composed of other unique individuals.
We come into this world in a manner that is somewhat random. By random, I mean we have little choice about the human beings who will be guiding us towards becoming adults. We do not know what beliefs they may have and we do not know if those beliefs and the resulting actions, will be effective in dealing with the world out there. Worse still, we have no idea whatsoever about how well what we are being taught will enable us to cope with other human beings.
Given the apparent randomness of human up bringing, it is a miracle that we are not rushing to push "the button" every 5 min. So what's is it that binds us together as a species? What is it that brings you together with another person in a relationship?
A lot depends on what you focus on. It is rumoured that leaving the top off of the toothpaste tube is one of the leading causes of divorce. This is of course complete fabrication. The leading cause of problems in relationship communication is bad focus.
Good communication comes from focusing on the things that work for both of you and for the relationship. By switching your focus from the top on the toothpaste tube, to appreciative remarks, and by focusing on the good things, your perspective changes.
You entered into a relationship with some common goals and some common benefits you were seeking. Pause and consider them for a moment.
When you enter into a relationship with someone, by which I mean a positive and cooperative relationship, you probably did so because you and the other person had congruent values. You both decided that what was important to the other person was also important to you. You shared beliefs about what is right and good. Values are the clearing in the middle of forest where we can all come together and meet.Shared values are that place in a relationship which does not have any conflict. Values are the safe space where you feel secure about being yourself.
Because those shared values create a safe space for you, you can be yourself and you don't have to prove anything to anyone. Discovering the shared values you have with another human being is one of the quickest way to build trust, rapport and understanding. Without trust, rapport and understanding you will not experience the relationship you really want.
To improve your relationships communication, I would recommend what you do is to simply ask a question. The question is "What is most important to you?"
You can also ask if the other person has those qualities in their life and if the answer is no, I'm going to suggest you offer to help them achieve that.
Relationship communication is about creating cooperation. Cooperation can only come from understanding and understanding can only come from appropriate questioning, respect and trust.
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What Can Your Right Arm Teach You About Better Communication Skills Training? Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/6184076
Few people realise the importance of communication skills training. Many of you live your life believing that the fact that you can all speak the language of the land you live in constitutes having communication skills. For those of you who have ambitions beyond being Mr Average, or the guy next door, this is your lucky day.
Good communication skills comes from study followed by a diligent and persistent practice. I am not going to kid you that this is like the red pill you take in the matrix and all of a sudden you have supernatural powers. Life just isn't like that. If you want something in life that is different, if you want something that is better and above and beyond what you've got now, you have to do something different.
You may have heard, it is not what you know it's who you know. Though this is, in my experience true, there is also a common misconception that many people have. That misconception is that you have to know the rich and famous to become rich and famous. Not true. To become rich and famous or even just slightly popular, all you have to do is to be able to communicate the value you will deliver to people, in a clear and concise manner.
That value can take many forms. The value you provide can be anything from a great product or great service to simply being a great employee. Research shows that the more you give the more you get. So hopefully you are beginning to see that there are benefits in communicating your value to the world to others. And hopefully you can also see that the better you are at communicating that value, the more you are going to get back. For it is written, as "As ye sow,so shall ye reap."
There are other benefits to having excellent communication. Not least amongst these, is the fact that you spend less time fighting for your corner and defending your territory. Because your relationships are more harmonious with others, it means that you will be more relaxed.
Research has shown that when you are relaxed you not only live a longer life, you also live a happier life. Unless you are some sort of a hermit you're going to end up being more popular and being perceived as a trusted, go to guy or gal.
Even if you are a hermit, with your improved communication skills you will be better able to commune with nature and the birds and bees. And with your self too.
Think about it.
Communication skills training goes way beyond what you say and do with others. Good communication skills training should also show you how to communicate effectively and clearly with yourself.
This can be demonstrated through an NLP exercise known as the pointing exercise. We use this exercise or activity at the start of every training, every public presentation and every consultation. But we do why do we do this?
The exercise involves telling participants to hold out their left arm and then to twist round so that their arm points at a place in the room behind them. "But only until things get tight. We don't want them to do anything that may compromise their safety."
They are then asked to look along their arm and to take a "mental picture" of where they are looking at.
Next, participants are invited to close their eyes and to imagine them self going round further. They are asked to imagine what else they will see when they look along their arm. What will be new? What will they feel in their new and more supple body? What will they hear other people saying about their wonderful new flexibility? And what will they say to them self?
By suggesting how much further people can twist their body round, something remarkable happens. When they are asked to twist round a second time the majority of people, regardless of age or gender can twist a further metre. ( Approximately 1 yard )
The reason is quite simple.
The pointing exercise demonstrates in a graphic and kinaesthetic format how the mind and the body of one system. By altering what you say yourself and how you say it to yourself you can get radically improved results.
I would invite you try this out for yourself. Just remember to only go round until it gets tight.
Once you become aware of this it is easier for you to be mindful about how you talk yourself and also to gain more control over the results that you are getting in life.
This isn't some woo woo, way out, flaky hippie theory.
This is based on solid scientific research that has been carried out the last century and goes right back to the father modern psychology William James.
William James talks about this stuff in his 1896 book "Psychology" volumes one and two.
You know that there are things you can do, today right now, to start to get the life you really want. You may not believe me. That is okay.
What is important is that you have the courage to go beyond whatever is holding you in your current state. Remember it's all just an idea in your head. Perhaps you are neither unhappy or dissatisfied. That is really great
Does that mean that you can't imagine your life being any better, on any level, in any aspect at all? Unless you gave a clear and unequivocal yes to the last question there may be something here for you to learn, as well.
As the British SAS say, "Who dares wins!"
Michael Noone is a communication skills specialist and NLP trainer living in Thailand with his partner Evelyne Draper. They have worked together for many years teaching clear communication which leads to trust and understanding between people. The net result is cooperation...the place where conflict disappears and shared, common values become the driver for everyone. You can learn more about them here at http://www.topcommunicationskills.com and also at http://commmunicationskillstraining.brighterplanet.org/ |
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Assertive Communication
Many people confuse assertive communication with being right. They focus on winning instead of focusing on the result that they really want to achieve. As a result of this people don't listen to what is being said. The result of this is that they do not understand what the other person is trying to communicate to them. This is precisely where the whole conversation starts to break down.
From a very early at each we are taught that it is wrong to cooperate. What do I mean by that? When you go to school you are taught don't copy Johnny or Susie's work. You are taught that sharing resources and ideas is somehow cheating. You are taught that this is bad. I'm not one hundred percent sure what the psychological effect of this mindset is on a young brain but I suspect it is not good. The reason we look over their shoulder of other people is because we want to learn.
I believe that at a deep level this sets up divisions on an emotional and psychological level. We are also taught that you have an inherent rights to not share that which is important to you. This comes from beliefs about scarcity and lack. Scarcity and lack set the ground for conflict and the need for assertiveness comes out of a belief that there is in fact a conflict.
Scarcity, lack and conflict are all just the need for assertive communication is just a belief in our society. We are taught that children must be trained. We are not taught that children must be guided towards being able to make better decisions.
A belief in scarcity and lack lead to resentment and insecurity. People don't feel good about themselves and they go into fight or flight responses. Both the fight and the flight response are defensive and at the end of the day what are you defending? On many levels you are merely defending your ego. Your position. Your view.
Why do you want to go through all of the rollercoaster emotions involved in using assertive communication? Is there a degree of addiction to being right?
These are radical ideas. My views do not set into those of the establishment. I believe we are taught from an early age how to not cooperate with one another beyond what is absolutely necessary to sustain life. I also believe we are taught, subtly how to be in conflict with one another.
Before you reach for your arsenal of assertive communication skills stop for a moment and consider this.
What is the outcome but I want to get from this conversation, this interaction, this dialogue and how can I do this most easily? How can I not only get this result for myself but also for the other person?
By operating from this win-win mindset not only do we both get what we want. Neither of us has to feel resentment, or plan revenge at the earliest opportunity.
Try out this new mindset. By doing so you'll be amazed at the results that you are going to get.
Saturday, October 15, 2011
Thursday, October 13, 2011
NLP Training for you to use now part 2
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NLP Training for you to use now part 2
Welcome back to video 2 in this series on how to use your brain effectively.
In this video I talk about how your brain distorts, deletes and generalises information it receives from your environment and how that information is not always correct.
Your brain creates your experiences of events based on what it has experienced and believes to be true from your past.
Seeing is not believing...!!
I'll be loading up more information on this to http://nlp-courses.org over the next couple of weeks and how you can use what you will learn to your advantage.
Wednesday, October 12, 2011
NLP Training in Wellington You Can Use Right Now
NLP training wellington
NLP training wellington
Here’s a short video I just uploaded to my YouTube Channel etrainingsystems YouTube
I talk about the six languages that your brain understands. No I don’t mean English or Hindi or Armenian.
I’m talking about visual, auditory, Kinaesthetic, olfactory, gustatory and auditory digital. These may not seem all that important to you at first glance.
As we go on together I intend to demonstrate that understanding how your “six senses” work are critical for being truly successful in every area of your life.
This is a brief intro to what I teach on my nlp courses and trainings but you can relax because there is nothing for sale here. Just lots more useful stuff that you can easily learn to begin getting what you want for your life.
NLP Training in Wellington You Can Use Right Now
http://nlp-courses.org/nlp-training-for-you-to-use-right-now
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JiCNEAb0dkI
Here’s a short video I just uploaded to my YouTube Channel etrainingsystems YouTube
I talk about the six languages that your brain understands. No I don’t mean English or Hindi or Armenian.
I’m talking about visual, auditory, Kinaesthetic, olfactory, gustatory and auditory digital. These may not seem all that important to you at first glance.
As we go on together I intend to demonstrate that understanding how your “six senses” work are critical for being truly successful in every area of your life.
This is a brief intro to what I teach on my nlp courses and trainings but you can relax because there is nothing for sale here. Just lots more useful stuff that you can easily learn to begin getting what you want for your life.