Why NLP Courses Teach You About Congruence

Congruence is one of those non-obvious aspects of NLP courses that some folks manage to miss.



 

Have you ever experienced being in a state of flow where everything just fell into place? And the right place, at that.

A state in which every word you said had the precise effect you hoped it would and where people understood you totally. The state where you felt confident and comfortable and relaxed and everything just felt so easy. And in that state you were probably saying things to your self that were supportive and nurturing and loving, while other people around you were experiencing you as charismatic and trusted.

Most people have had that at one point in their life. Where it all just lines up, perfectly.

And have you ever watched somebody else ? Maybe it was a teacher or somebody doing a sales presentation or a parent with a child and they seemed to be doing all the right stuff. They were appeared to be saying the correct things and using all the correct postures. And despite doing all those correct things it wasn't effective because they weren't getting that result they seemed to want. And the less they got the result they wanted, the worse their performance became.

Have you ever seen that ?

Here's what is important about the two states I just described...

The first one is about internal experiences and I got you to think about the experience. I described how it felt from the perspective of your own experience of being in that state. How your body would feel and what you would say. The effect you are having on other people around you and you went inside your own mind and imagined that.

Because of the way that your brain is wired when I say to you "Can you remember a time when" ?, your mind automatically goes to a time such as the one i'm describing. If it can't find that experience in your memory then it goes right ahead and makes one up.

This is why the most effective marketing, political campaigns, teachings and movements, all get you to imagine what it will be like when you get (x). Imagination is a very powerful part of how humans operate. It's why we tell stories. Stories allow us to imagine.

From imagination we create reality...

Reality is based on your beliefs which comes from your perceived reality.

So what has this got to do with NLP and congruence.

Well, congruence is what makes the difference between the two results I described.

On an NLP course the trainer will be in a totally congruent and effective state. What this means is that their mind, body and emotions are all in the best state to deliver your training to you. This is done by using a proven methodology for teaching based on years of research, refinement and practice.

OK Mike but I'm not an NLP trainer ...

And that doesn't mean you can't apply these same NLP techniques to other areas in your life. If you're like most folks then you enjoy being in that flow state and flow is a pretty darn good description for congruence. If you enjoy being happy then think back to the last time you felt like that. You can probably also realise that you were in a state of flow.

Anyway please...!

I don't want you to imagine about what it's like to be in that flow state because you are already thinking it anyway.

Enjoy